Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life.
To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.
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Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life.
To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.
Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/
If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.
Thank you so much for listening.
Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter
Welcome to this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, I am your host, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO.
Last week we talked about the impact of our words on our lives and the importance of watching what we say to ourselves and about ourselves. Today, I will be sharing practical tips on how to make our words work for us instead of against us.
When I think of the importance of our words in crafting the life we desire, I think of the word “potent”. Potent means having great power, influence and effect. Using intentional language when speaking to ourselves or talking about ourselves and our situation can be a potent tool for us to thrive through the messiness of life’s chaos.
Intentional language is about consciously choosing words to create a positive impact on your thoughts and experiences. It is a skill that, like any other, requires practice. Now, let us dive into some practical tips to make intentional language a natural part of our daily lives.
Tip #one is: Crafting Positive Affirmations. Affirmations are like seeds you plant in the garden of your mind. They grow into beliefs and influence your actions. Develop affirmations that resonate with your goals and desires. For instance, if you are facing a challenging day. Instead of succumbing to negativity, create a positive affirmation like, "I am resilient and conquer challenges with ease." "I am resilient, and I overcome obstacles with grace." Repeat these like a mantra and let its positive seed sprout into a belief that guides your actions through the day and beyond.
Positive affirmations do not only come in handy in the middle of a challenging day, they are also a tool that you can use to kickstart your day.
Use them for Mirror Talk, a life changing work that people like Lisa Nichols and Mel Robbins have attested to its efficacy.
So, Stand in front of the mirror each morning, look into your eyes, and speak words of affirmation to yourself. Affirm your worth, capability, and resilience. As Lisa Nichols says, "You are the one you've been waiting for," and mirror talk solidifies that truth.
In the show notes for this episode, I have shared a list of affirmations that you can download to get you started.
Our #two Tip is: Reframing Negative Thoughts. This is something Joyce Meyer speaks about in her book, Battlefield of the Mind. She talks about fighting back the lies of the enemy. She encourages us not to settle for negativity, those thoughts that overwhelm us and break us down.
So, When a negative thought arises to make you doubt yourself, consciously reframe it into a positive statement. For example, instead of thinking, "I can't handle this," Pause, take a breath, and reframe it as, "I have the strength to navigate through this challenge." See how you've transformed a disempowering thought into a rallying cry for your inner strength?
Reframing shifts your perspective and empowers you to face difficulties with resilience.
Tip #three is: Embrace Gratitude Language. Practice it. Cultivate a habit of expressing gratitude in your language. Inside every loss, heartache, in the midst of life’s chaos, you can still find silver linings. You may ask me the silver lining in the struggles and eventual death of my first born. Her journey has strengthened my resolve to help other mothers fight for their mental wholeness and building resilience when they find themselves in difficult life situations. Because of my darling daughter, I will no longer be silent about how the way we navigate life’s challenges and our lives in general impact our children. If I had been this woman when my daughter was younger, if I had walked in the strength that I had in me, my daughter would have grown up with a healthier mindset. I acknowledge that there are things beyond our control but I also acknowledge that as mothers, as women, we have things within our control that can help others around us.
So, Acknowledge the positive aspects of your life, even in challenging times. For instance, instead of dwelling on the negative aspects, express gratitude by saying, "I am thankful for the wisdom these difficulties bring." When talking with people about your situation, instead of focusing on the negatives, acknowledge them and say "I am grateful for the lessons I have learnt through this challenging situation."
Amid chaos, Gratitude language redirects your focus to the positive aspects of your journey.
Tip #four: Visualizing your Success. Incorporate visualization into your language practice. Use vivid and positive language to describe your goals and aspirations. Instead of saying, "I hope to succeed," visualize it with, "I see myself achieving this goal with determination and grace." The power of positive visualization amplifies the energy behind your intentions and makes your success more attainable.
Lastly, Tip #Five: Setting Language Intentions. Begin your day by setting language intentions. Declare, "Today, I will speak words of encouragement and empowerment." You can go on a negative language fast where for one day, 3 days, a week, or any period of time that you choose, you can decide to only use positive language no matter the situation. You could also do a complain fast where you only use gratitude language to describe situations, no matter how challenging. I have found language fasts helpful in my own life.
Intentionality shapes your mindset and influences the energy you bring into each moment. With intentional language, you set the tone for positivity.
As we wrap up, remember that intentional language is a transformative journey, not a destination. Be patient and celebrate progress. One way to check on how we are doing is by regularly reflecting on our language choices. Ask yourself, "Are my words aligned with my goals and values?" Self-reflection helps you stay self-aware and ensures that your language remains a tool for growth rather than an unintentional barrier.
To help you on your intentional language journey, I have prepared a special language reflection worksheet for you to use for self-reflection. Find the link in the show notes and use it to deepen your intentional language practice.
Next week, I will be talking about how the anchor of faith helps you thrive through chaos.
Remember, the journey to intentional language is a process, so be patient and compassionate with yourself. When you do this, messy won’t stop you.
Thank you so much for listening. See you next time.